There is no simple answer to this. In my household, my youngest is the most "bullish". We have the classic scenario of oldest, middle and baby in our household. True to form we put a lot of pressure on our oldest to succeed and be a good example. Our middle one feels the most left out and is most likely to compromise during an argument. Our youngest has learned how to get out of the most chores has the quickest temper. It is this temper and how she deals with it that has me worried from time to time that we may be raising a bully.
But what is a bully? As kids we were always taught that a bully was a person that picked on you because they were jealous of you. They were small minded and insignificant. But basically a bully is just a person who uses fear or intimidation to gain power over others. That would describe most of our government. So maybe I'm raising a politician; God help me.
I think my main concern comes from her ability to pick up on her siblings' insecurities and poke at them. Then, just when the wound starts to heal, she picks the scab and the cycle starts all over. She jabs and jabs until the older two lose their temper and a full blown argument ensues complete with hitting, kicking, yelling and screaming. And the cause of the problem is lost on the baby of the family. She isn't ready to accept that kind of responsibility. The reasoning is lost on her.
I told her recently to accept the fact that she is a bully. To embrace it and turn it into something good. You know, like... Well I'm sure there's somebody and if not she could be the first. Calling her out on it affected her. She went to her room and thought about it for nearly 20 minutes before coming back into the living room and apologizing. I thought for sure I made a connection. Until today...
I guess there's always politics. Hail to the chief.
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